Many people aren’t that great at social interaction. And that’s okay!
Usually, a lack of confidence can lead to feeling uncomfortable in social settings.
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Building confidence is absolutely possible and very easy to do. We put together a handy guide to help you learn to build confidence and improve your social skills.
Are you ready to change your social life? Before we get into our list of great social skills activities, let’s look into how confidence can improve your social life.
How can improving my confidence help my social skills?
One word: Cues.
When you think of developing confidence and how it usually leads to a better social life, one tends to think it just happens because you’re happier and more approachable.
While this can be true, that’s not the only reason.
When you start developing confidence and your attitude is improved, you will be able to read social cues. When you’re confident, you can read the other people around you and make a healthy decision of whether or not they like you– or more importantly, if you even like them.
Once the intrusive anxiety of self-consciousness is replaced with a healthy love and respect for yourself, you’ll pick up on these cues with more clarity and you will deal with the negative cues better.
You’ll be able to determine if that guy is actually into you, if that person actually wants to hang out with you sometime, and if you’re actually attracted to that girl.
The Best Social Skills Activities To Improve Your Social Interactions
Not only are these activities very simple, but some of them are actually a lot of fun.
If you aren’t very confident, your alertness can lead to panic mode in a social situation.
A good way to relax is to learn how to properly read your own body and stop misinterpreting what your body does.
When you have all the natural signs of nervousness, try to think of them as signs that you’re excited and ready to perform. Take your body’s natural response to what should be positive stress and turn it into a good thing. This will absolutely help you perform better in social situations.
Focus On Others
One of the best social skills activities you can implement, especially during a first impression, is to focus on helping other people through the interaction.
Instead of focusing on how nervous you are and self-conscious you’re feeling, try to gather your self-esteem. Be the one that creates a positive social instance that makes everybody involved feel better and wanted.
By taking the focus away from yourself and putting it on others, you’re contributing to the greater good – and improving your own social life by being that one person that everybody feels comfortable around. Being the person that creates that safe space will also make putting up with your nervousness a little less awful as well.
Keep in mind that toxic people exist, though, and don’t take it too personally if someone isn’t into you.
Accept Your Personality For What It Is
We cover a lot of social skills activities in this guide, but this one is definitely one of the most important ones.
It’s easy to try to be someone else when interacting with people. But this is a recipe for disaster.
You’re essentially drawing in people that like a particular personality, and you won’t be able to keep up with the ruse forever. When people catch on and eventually disengage with you, you’ll feel pretty awful.
Accepting your personality for what it is and being yourself in social situations will draw in people that actually like your personality – and those people are more likely to stick around.
This is not to say that if you have toxic or insensitive behaviors you shouldn’t work to improve yourself. Rather, the harmless quirks of your personality are unique to you and you should embrace them.
In that same breath, it’s important to accept if you’re introverted.
Did you know that forcing yourself to be as extroverted possible as an introvert can actually lead to dangerous health problems like heart disease? If you’re not naturally a social butterfly, forcing yourself to be the star of the party could seriously harm you.
Accept that you’re introverted and manage the amount of social interactions you have and do your best to make them meaningful.
Sounds scary, doesn’t it? Well, it is – and that’s the point.
Implosion is a technique for overcoming fear. Take on a challenge so terrifying that once you’ve accomplished it or beat it, all of your lesser fears seem way less terrible than they originally were.
This technique is great because instead of taking baby steps (which is also very much okay to do instead of implosion) you overcome a lot of fears all at once.
Fight Those Limiting Beliefs
Even if you’re a pretty fluid person, you still hold beliefs. Everybody does. And sometimes our beliefs can seriously impact our self-confidence and self-esteem.
Beliefs like “I’m ugly” or “I always bring up the dumbest subjects” are limiting are can affect how you interact with people socially. Confirmation bias is what makes us stick to these beliefs.
Confirmation bias is when we fixate on things that confirm our limiting beliefs and reject actual facts that support a contradictory belief.
For example, say you’re talking to someone new and bring up an unconventional hobby. The person you’re talking to isn’t feeling it and the social interaction doesn’t work out.
Despite the dozens of times people have told you they appreciate how interesting your conversations are, you’ll ignore these facts in favor of the one negative piece of evidence that you bring up the dumbest subject. This is confirmation bias.
The best thing you can do is recognize that these beliefs are limiting and sometimes self-fulfilling. Remind yourself that you won’t get more confident unless you have positive experiences that build your confidence.
Was our list of social skills activities useful? Do you have a favorite social skills activity that we missed? We’d love to hear from you in the comments below!