In life, have you felt that you have always been giving and loving others without getting anything back? If you have this feeling, it’s probably because you have not loved yourself enough. In this post, we will look at How to Get Better at Self-Love or Loving Yourself More!
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What does it mean to love yourself and how can we love ourselves better? I was having this conversation with a really good friend of mine recently and she asked me is self-love. I thought about it and generally I can simplify it down to these three things.
Accept and Embrace Your Own-self
First of all, to love yourself fully is to accept and embrace yourself for everything that you are…including your strengths, your weaknesses, your flaws… you are who you are and you have to accept and love yourself for who you are. You have to love yourself at your best and love yourself even at your worst – it’s about just embracing who you are and owning it without wanting to be anyone else. You have to know that you have the best now and you would not want to have a different life because you should love and accept your life. Love is unconditional, so whatever happens you still have to love yourself. Of course, we continue to work on ourselves for a better tomorrow but accept who you are today.
Learn to Forgive
This comes in two parts…
You have to learn to forgive yourself first. This means not being so hard on yourself. If you ever make a mistake or mess up, don’t dwell on it. It’s time to acknowledge the mistake, learn from it and move on. Period!
Learn to forgive others who have hurt you even if they haven’t apologized or even if they don’t deserve it. This can be hard and tricky, but if you can do it then it’s extremely powerful. When you have an argument with someone or you have a grudge or there’s some sort of unsettled situation, that occupies space in your mind and there’s this negative energy where you’re always hurting because you haven’t gotten over that situation. You want to learn to forgive others, not necessarily because they deserve it, but because you love yourself too much to let yourself keep hurting over that situation.
It doesn’t have to be a verbal connection…you don’t have to tell them that you’ve forgiven them. It’s more for yourself that you’ve forgiven this person and let go of the situation just so that you can have inner peace, because forgiving yourself and forgiving others is learning to treat yourself well. Forgiving is really about loving yourself because you don’t want to keep hurting over anything that happened in the past. Forgiving is letting go and not allowing yourself to carry the burden and hurt from the past so that you can look to the future with a light heart and without past haunting memories.
Listen and Get to Know Yourself
Take a time to really listen to yourself and do what’s best for you. In loving yourself, you have to really know yourself and through that you can do what’s best. I do this through writing. Writing is my way of talking to myself, I have budget Journals and I do stream of consciousness writing which means I just right whatever floats out of me, whatever it off the top of my mind and keep going and I keep writing, writing and writing until the voice inside of me comes out.
It takes a while to peel off the layers of what’s on the surface, on the surface we think about our daily life and the things that we have to do, but if you keep listening to yourself and keep digging, then you start to find the most honest core of yourself and the voice that is truly you. So that’s how I get to know myself and I listen to what I’m really feeling and what I really want, through that I try to take action and do things that complement what I truly want and what’s best for me. And allow yourself time to do the things that pleases your soul. You owe it to yourself to spend time with you…