It’s true: experts agree that even the smartest people doubt themselves and the choices they’ve made from time to time.
Often, that doubt can have serious emotional consequences.
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Doubting your life choices, feeling unhappy about where you are in life, or holding onto regret are some of the leading causes of anxiety and depression.
If you’re struggling, you’re not alone. Up to 40 million Americans struggle with either mild or severe anxiety.
Studies show that major life changes or choices are among the leading causes of depression. This means things like having a child, losing your job, or getting a divorce.
Even if you’ve made a career move to be happier, you’ve probably wondered if it really was the right choice. In fact, over 50% of Americans say they are unhappy with their current jobs and workplaces.
Do you wish you could feel better about yourself?
We all struggle with doubt sometimes and wonder if we did the right thing.
But often, doubt can spiral out of control.
In this post, we’re offering you tips on how to feel better about yourself, and the choices you’ve made.
It’s time to defeat the doubt!
1. Understand That Doubting Happens To Everyone
When you’re trying to feel better about yourself, the first step is to understand that the anxiety and doubt you’re feeling is totally normal.
Even the most confident people in the world struggle over whether or not they made the right call. If anything, this worry should let you know just how much you truly do care about something.
It’s impossible to ever be 100% secure in your decisions.
Embrace that reality, and use it to motivate you!
Don’t dwell on the fact that things might not work out the way you wanted. Instead, focus on the now.
Stop inventing disaster scenarios that haven’t happened yet.
It’s a waste of time and mental energy.
If you keep expecting and preparing for the worst, you won’t be able to live in the moment and feel better about yourself and your choices.
Instead, focus on the things you can control.
And, when things do end up going right, celebrate that it was you who made it happen, not “luck” or someone else.
2. Learn To Clearly Evaluate Your Options
Of course, one of the best ways to feel better about yourself and the choices you’ve made is to clearly evaluate your options before you make a major decision.
You’ll feel much more secure in whatever you decide knowing that you really took the time to see the situation from every side possible.
Plus, no matter what happens, now you’ll know what to expect!
One of the best ways to clearly see possible outcomes?
Make a pros and cons list.
Usually, there are a lot more pros than cons. This will reinforce the fact that your instincts are right.
Ask yourself, “What is the absolute worst thing that could possibly happen if I make a bad call or things don’t work out how I wanted?”
Then, write it down. Seeing your fears in print can make them a lot easier to overcome.
Often, the “consequence” is never as enormous as you’re making it out to be in your mind.
3. Set Yourself Limits
It’s so easy to get bogged down by possible outcomes and worrying about what could happen when you make a choice.
Often, you spend so much time thinking about your options, that you end up letting the opportunity pass you by!
Consistently missing opportunities is no way to feel better about yourself.
One way to make sure this doesn’t happen?
Set yourself a time limit for when you’ll make your final decision.
This will stop you from overthinking and overanalyzing your choices.
It also ensures that you actually do something!
Sometimes, you have to force yourself to make a choice one way or the other. Doing so may be stressful at first, but eventually, you’ll learn to make great decisions quickly – and to trust your gut.
4. Manage Your Expectations
It’s tough to feel better about yourself and your choices if what you want is totally unrealistic.
We’re not saying that you can’t achieve your dreams – you can.
We’re saying that you can’t achieve all your dreams overnight.
It’s easy to feel like a failure when you want too much, too fast.
Instead, think about how the smaller choices you’ve made will lead you towards your ultimate life goals.
For example, instead of saying “I want to be the CEO of a Fortune 500 Company in a year” (hey, don’t we all) get more specific.
Make your new goal something like, “I want to get an entry-level position at a company I feel has incredible growth potential in the next month and a half.”
Always adjust and re-evaluate your goals. And don’t forget to show yourself some love and celebrate your accomplishments – even if they’re small!
5. Don’t Give Up!
It’s simple advice, but it’s incredibly effective.
Don’t let criticisms, failures or just unexpected outcomes throw you off track.
Instead, see them as new opportunities to try something you would never have otherwise.
Reframe how you see things in your mind and focus on the possible positive outcomes, not the negative ones.
If you didn’t get a promotion, instead of thinking “I’ll never be good enough,” try, “Great! Now I know I should go ahead and ask my friend if his company is hiring.”
Focus on doing the things you enjoy both personally and professionally to feel better about yourself.
If you love what you do, who you’re with, and where you are, you’ll experience less doubt.
It’s Time To Feel Better About Yourself And Your Choices
We know that, in today’s super-competitive world, it’s not always so easy to be confident.
But the reality is that everyone else is struggling right along with you – we’re all faking it until we make it.
But how can you “make it” faster?
We suggest meeting with a social confidence coach. They’ll teach you how to manage your anxiety, cut down on the doubt, and will help you to feel better about yourself.
Trust in the choices you’ve made, and the amazing things you’ve accomplished that got you to where you are today.
Don’t let self-doubt steal one more minute of your time. Start improving your sense of self-worth today.