Do you ever have days when you feel utterly worthless? Like you can’t do anything right? It makes sense. Building self-esteem and maintaining your self-worth can be hard, right?
You’re not the only one.
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Unfortunately, low self-esteem is something that most people deal with at one time or another. As a matter of fact, 85% of people deal with low self-esteem.
Let’s face it. Low self-esteem is a difficult issue to fix. It’s hard because it requires you to see yourself as you really are, and not as what you think you should be.
So how do we fix this? Building self-esteem means creating a new sense of worth. You have to reframe the way you see yourself and the world around you. It’s a total change of your mindset.
Here’s the good news: It can be done.
In this post, you are going to learn the following:
- Why building self-esteem is important.
- How small wins can build your sense of worth.
- Why talking to yourself is important.
- How to view failure.
If you use the advice given in this post, over time you will begin to feel better about yourself. You won’t have days when you feel worthless. This will radically transform your life and your relationships.
You will be a better person.
Let’s get started, shall we?
Why Is Building Self-Esteem Important?
Everyone knows that having a healthy self-esteem is important. You’d be hard-pressed to find someone who thinks having a low self-esteem is a good thing, right?
But why is it important? What does a healthy self-esteem do for you?
Here are a few reasons why building self-esteem is important:
- It makes it easier to deal with disagreement.
- You become more confident in your abilities, which means you perform better.
- It makes you more resilient.
- You’re not as afraid to take on new ventures.
- You can assert your views much more easily.
- You don’t rely on other people’s opinions.
Building self-esteem is essential to your success. Next, I will give you some tips that will help you raise your self-esteem by constructing a new sense of worth.
Improve Your Self Talk
Let me ask you a few questions. How’s your self-talk? What’s it like? Is it mostly positive? Or negative?
Have you ever given this any thought?
If you’re like most of us, probably not. We’re far too busy for navel gazing, aren’t we?
But it’s important because the way you talk to yourself has a tremendous impact on your self-esteem. A lot of times, we put ourselves down. We focus our self-talk on our mistakes and shortcoming. It’s pretty soul crushing.
When you have negative self-talk, you’re talking yourself into failure without even knowing it. That’s why it’s important to take control of your inner thought life.
So, how do you take control of your thought life?
When applied to your self-talk, a pattern interrupt is simply a wait to interrupt negative thought patterns so you can change them into more productive thought patterns.
When you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts about yourself, interrupt this pattern by saying (or thinking) the word “stop.” Of course, you don’t have to use “stop” as your interrupting word. You can use any word or phrase that you choose. Once you interrupt the pattern, then reset your mind to start thinking more positive thoughts about yourself.
Here’s an example:
Let’s say you just finished giving a speech and you’re sitting down thinking about how you performed. You might start thinking thoughts like…
“I forgot one of the more important points that I wanted to make.”
“I totally butchered that quote by Thomas Edison.”
“I hope they couldn’t tell that I was nervous.”
Instead of continuing in this fashion, you tell yourself to STOP. Then, you deliberately replace these thoughts with better ones.
“I may have forgotten that point, but I nailed the rest of it!”
“I may not have gotten the quote 100% correct, but I still got my point across.”
“Yes, I was nervous, but people usually can’t tell if you’re nervous. Besides, I got tons of applause!”
See what I mean?
Using the pattern interrupt technique makes it easier to move from negative thoughts to positive ones. It’s going to take some practice at first. You won’t get it right all the time. But as you start to use this tactic more often, you will see how easy it is to disrupt your negative thought patterns.
Celebrate The Small Wins
One of the reasons we have trouble building self-esteem is because we ignore our smaller accomplishments and focus only on the larger goals we have. It’s understandable. You know what your ultimate objective is and it’s hard to focus on the steps you need to take to get there.
But here’s the thing: it takes time to accomplish our larger objectives.
Instead of just focusing on the larger goal, focus on the steps that you’re taking. Pay attention to the smaller victories that you’ve won to get you to where you want to be. Celebrate those victories!
Here’s an example:
You’re an entrepreneur who wants to become a millionaire. And you’re getting down on yourself because you haven’t managed to make the amount of money you want to make.
Instead of focusing on the fact that you haven’t made a million dollars yet, focus on the progress you have made. Did you get a new customer last week? Did you finally finish creating your product? Have you managed to get investors interested in your company?
If you’re working hard to accomplish your goal, then there will be things you have done to move yourself forward. That’s what counts. That’s what’s important. Cheer yourself when you have smaller wins. These wins serve as an example of how well you’re doing.
Thomas Edison said:
“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
I’m just going to be blunt. You’re going to fail. Multiple times. No matter what you’re trying to do, there will be times where you don’t succeed.
It’s unavoidable. And you know what? It’s not a bad thing.
Can you name one person who has achieved major success without having failures along the way? Yeah, I didn’t think so.
Instead of viewing failure as something negative, view it as something positive. Failure is only bad if you don’t learn from it. Use failure to make yourself better at what you do.
When you learn how to view failure in a healthy way, you are improving your self-esteem while learning how to perform more effectively.
Building self-esteem doesn’t have to be overwhelming. It just requires you to take more control of the way you see yourself and the world around you. When you use the tips given in this post, you will gain a new sense of self-worth. Your self-esteem will grow and you will become your best self.
What do you think? What are some other ways you can improve your self-esteem? Let us know by leaving a comment!