Also I want to point out that I know I just said 10 life-changing tips and I don’t want to sound all over promising with this… but this truly works if it put it to good use. Self-esteem builds confidence and allows you to really just be who you are. It allows you to be your true self in every way, so with that said… here are 10 powerful principles to improve your self-esteem and boost your feelings of self-worth through continued practice. There’s a quick disclaimer here – be aware that just knowing the information about you reveal won’t be enough to raise self-esteem. You have to actually go through the motions and practice what I’m about to preach. By taking action on these tips you’ll definitely feel a lot better in time.
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Improve Self-Esteem Tip #1: Stop Comparing Yourself to Other
I’m sure one time or another you’ve looked at your neighbor, friends, family member or coworkers with envious eyes and you’ve been enamored with someone else’s big salary, picturesque family life, perfect looks, ripped six-pack whatever. Everyone on occasion fall victim to feeling inadequate as a result of someone else’s accomplishments. I’m going to tell you right now…if you want to improve your self-esteem, the very first thing you need to start doing is throw this habit out the window.
Stop comparing yourself to other people, be your own person and love the skin you’re in. When you compare yourself with others only two possible outcomes can arise…
The first outcome is you compare yourself with someone who’s less fortunate than you. This can bring about feelings of gratitude when you learn to appreciate what you have and this scenario can have the effect of actually boosting your self-esteem which is good.
The problem is when you become habitual with this comparing mentality. You start more often than not comparing yourself of people who have qualities you don’t possess. Why focus on what you don’t have?
There are endless factors that make up who we are and when you start comparing yourself with other people they will tend to focus on factors that you envy rather than the strengths and fortune you already possess. Probably a bad idea to focus on what you don’t have… instead focus on what you already have and appreciate the fact that things are going great for you.
Improve Self-Esteem Tip #2: Keep Your Thoughts Positive
We all have this constant monologue running through our brain and it’s just impossible to turn off that little voice that’s always so negative (but actually with some practise you can actually). If you’re constantly thinking negative thoughts that reinforce feelings of low self-esteem, the result will be just that…negative.
It’s so important to stay aware of your thinking and not fall into the habit of self-deprecation or talking down to yourself. Look for your strengths in everyday life (yes you will find that you have strengths and good traits) and make a practice to continually pat yourself on the back for all your amazing qualities.
You’ve got to create a habit here and that’s the habit of self-appreciation. You can begin this new way of thinking every morning in the shower. The shower is a great place to spend even just five minutes meditating on how good you really are. Congratulate yourself on every victory of success no matter how small.
Every little self-complement, it will add up to greater feelings of self-worth, so try using affirmations as well, it really forces you to engage in the exercise through a dependable mantra and using affirmations, it does not have to be complicated and you don’t have to repeat a wild Chandra along with the prayer or anything like that.
And affirmation is simply a way of asserting your confidence with a statement. When you repeat an affirmation, you’re essentially confirming a belief in yourself out loud and this can feel silly the first time you do it, but it really is a healthy way to exercise your self-esteem. Once again the morning shower is a great way to work this practice into your life without taking up a lot of time.
One of the easiest ways to use affirmations is to make short lists of positive factors in your life and we will get into that a little bit, but just a quick example; you could say I’m an excellent listener, a talented artist, a hard worker, a kind person and well-read and amazing in the kitchen, I have beautiful teeth whatever. Just list out the qualities that make you feel good about yourself and feel proud as you reflect in your good fortune, feel good to be you.
Improve Self-Esteem Tip #3: Accept All Compliments with a Simple Thank You
You may find that a lot of times you receive a compliment and respond with ”it was nothing” or “it’s no big deal.” I want you to know that this is a huge way to sabotage self-esteem. When you essentially refuse a compliment you’re telling, you’re telling yourself that you’re not worth the complement. You devalue yourself.
I know this may sound overdramatic and you’re not thinking at the time of the complement is given. Oh! I’m not worthy of praise, but in fact the action of turning down a complement by brushing it off sends a message to your subconscious brain which in turn lessons your confidence and feelings of self-worth.
You’re reinforcing it back by not embracing the good basically, so instead accept every compliment with thank you it’s a simple answer that will allow you to feel just good about yourself and satisfy the person giving the compliment, so remember you can’t lose by just saying thank you. It will take some getting used to saying thank you for any compliment but do it. In time, it will become something quite natural for you and you will also make and accept the fact that you are worthy!
Improve Self-Esteem Tip #4: Find Positive Input
It is so important to engage in activities that make you feel good. Go read books that inspire you or go watch movies that make you laugh. One thing I like to do is watch some kind of motivational and inspirational clip on YouTube every week (every day is even better especially to start off the day with something positive). Go watch something that really puts my mind in a hopeful positive light.
Another way to find positive input is to create a new challenge for yourself. This could be something like learning a new language, master a new skill or just working towards self-improvement in some areas of your life. As long as you continue progressing forward (even slowly), you are adding into your self-esteem bank which will have long term positive effect on yourself
Improve Self-Esteem Tip #5: You Want to Be Associated and Surrounded with Supportive People
Nothing lowers self-esteem faster than associating with people who make you feel bad about yourself and fortunately this is a common scenario for people with low self-esteem. They tend to be with a group of people who they seek approval from and 10 out 10 times, the effect is just going to be negative on your long term self esteem development.
It’s a scenario that sabotage your self-worth because you will always be worried about what members of the group think of you. Break this habit by finding people who love you from the get-go or at least people who can appreciate you for who you are (yes – there are people like this out there).
Hang out with people who accept you unconditionally and respect who you are and by the way people won’t respect you for whom you are until you respect you for who you are, so work towards that goal first.
Improve Self-Esteem Tip #6: Make a List of Past Success
A great way to exercise self-esteem is to celebrate all of your past success. Take the time to write down all your accomplishments no matter how small and just bask in the light of your achievements. Seeing your success on paper, it can make even the smallest victory more gratifying. Do not under estimate this exercise. You will draw strength and confidence from past success as reference.
Improve Self-Esteem Tip #7: List Down Your Positive Traits and Qualities
Much like listing down past success, seeing how awesome you’re on paper is great. However this tip has the added bonus of showing you what kind of person you are. By knowing your strengths you’ll be able to focus on actions that give you positive results in life. This strategy works well on both personal life and business. This is your identity and when you see yourself on paper, you can appreciate yourself better.
Improve Self-Esteem Tip #8: Do Good for Others Around You
Day-to-day life presents us with opportunities to do good deeds for others. It could be as simple as lending a hand to someone who needs help opening a door or just some help to someone who needs to findexact change for that vending machine. Whatever the situation is…it doesn’t matter how big or small – choose to help when you can and you’ll feel better for it. Helping others does not make you lose out in anyway. In fact, helping others actually is helping yourself feel good about yourself.
Improve Self-Esteem Tip #9: Finding Your Passion
We all feel better when we’re productive. After you find the strengths through some of the exercises listed here you will definitely know which of your skills pack the biggest punch. Find your passion in business, volunteer work, school or study and fortify your feelings of self-worth. Everyone has a talent, everyone has a skill. Know yourself and follow your heart. And more importantly, do it because it makes you happy.
Improve Self-Esteem Tip #10: Be True to Yourself
Staying true to your character in any situation is what defines your integrity. Be moral, be kind and strive to do the right thing in any situation. When you have a strong moral compass you’ll always be comfortable in your own skin. And remember don’t let fear and anxiety hold you back from good self-esteem. Take the time every day to work on it, using the strategies outlined here and you’ll be well on your way.
Also I would love to hear some of your own comments on what kinds of things you do to improve your self-esteem. So please chime in below and feel free to bring something to the table that I haven’t added here.